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A Victory Unlimited Special Mission
Recently, a fan of the Victory Unlimited Show who happened to be a single, African American guy living in Atlanta, Georgia contacted the show. When he called, he was on a specific mission all his own. He didn’t ask a question about dating. He didn’t ask a question about relationships. He didn’t even ask a question about life strategy. No. This guy called to ask just one question. One question that was so heartfelt and so loaded with frustration and confusion that we just had to address it.
What was his question?
“Why is it so hard for good black men to find good black women?”
Here was a guy who thought that he had everything together—-thought that he’d been doing all the right things. He considered himself a “good man”. He identified himself as a man looking for an exclusive relationship with the right woman. He expressed great concern over the way that the news media always tells just one side of the story of black relationships——the women’s. “No one gives a damn about how hard black men have it out here too.” he said.
Well, for this man, and for all the single, good black men out there still searching for someone special to compliment their lives——-this show is for you.
To the contrary, this show is not a show for guys out there that are actually guilty of the many “Relationship War Crimes” that so many black men are accused of. No, this show is for all the single, good black men that get unfairly lumped in the same category, wrongly dishonorably discharged, or hit by unfriendly fire in the ongoing war to have a winning relationship. This show is also for the many good, black women who have always wanted to know why so many of their sons, brothers, and guy friends have so much trouble finding the right women for them.
Today, we’ll go inside the War Room and do an in-depth analysis on the “Top Twelve Reasons Why So Many Good Black Men Are Still Single”. After listening to this show, you’ll have a far better understanding of each of the scenarios listed below that good black men encounter everyday in their search for good black women:
1. The Celebrity Propaganda Scenario
2. The Knee Jerk Stereotyping Scenario
3. The Nonessential Appraisal Scenario
4. The Racial Familiarity Breeds Contempt Scenario
5. The Busted Brain Trust Scenario
6. The Mercenary Scenario
7. The Gender Group Think Scenario
8. The Circle of Confusion Scenario
9. The Mythical Man Scenario
10. The Right Man at the Wrong Time Scenario
11. The Lack of Depth Perception Scenario
12. The YouTube Scenario
For many years now, the vast majority of the problems experienced by African Americans in the dating world have been reported primarily from the female perspective. This has got to change. Before we can even begin to go on a mission to rescue black relationships, it’s important that we take into account not just the women’s perspective, but the men’s as well.
Otherwise, we will never advance from monologue to dialogue——–which is where our only hope for future success lies.
Much respect and success to you all.
Soldier on!
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Victory Unlimited recently joined forces with the Dr. Vibe——The Prime Minister of Pertinent Information and Host of the Vibe and Vegas Show. What followed was a Top Secret discussion on the challenges that good, single black men face in today’s dating world. Now this interview is being released worldwide. Please click on the image below to hear this special “off duty” interview in it’s entirety.
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War Room Comments
12 Responses to Mission #21 – Objective: The Top Twelve Reasons Why So Many Good Black Men Are Still Single!
What up, VU.
Great show, man. It’s about time somebody told our side of the black relationship story. I think that the more the truth gets out there, the more we’ll be able to “get it together”, like you said at the end of the show.
This show was not what I was expecting. What I was expecting was just another show bashing black men (or black women). But I was presently surprised at how evenhanded this was. And the way you ended this show almost made me cry. Good show.
Hey V.U.,
“Basketball Side Pieces”…Hah! I know you were just joking, but don’t be surprised if you see that show on VH1 next.
Thanks for your comments, everybody.
On a side note:
The day they actually come out with a show called “Basketball Jump-Offs” is the day that I lead an invasion of Tinsel Town and begin a movement that I’ll call “Occupy Hollywood”.
What up, VU.
Great show, man. It’s about time somebody told our side of the black relationship story. I know I have gone through more than a few of the things that were listed on that list… This is why I am out of the game for good… It’s all about me now…
Yeah, getting out of the “game” is good. Just don’t stop living your life. Why? Because it’s amazing how great women tend to appear out of “nowhere” while you’re making “Big Moves” in other areas of your life. I see this happen fairly often…
Vic! What’s good brother! Just wanted to pop in and say thank you again for putting me on the front end of the podcast. Love ya man! Talk to you soon.
-Donald
Much RESPECT to you, Donald G. All is well, here on the Front Lines. The fight to bring good men and good women together is never an easy one, you know. But you better believe we’re all up the task around here, soldier!
Thanks again for lending your “Voice” to the cause.
Til’ next time…
First off, Great show! Thanks for the methodological & organized break down. I definitely saw myself in some of those. I think a lot of people, not just “good black men”, would agree that they’ve exhibited some of the traits you mentioned: not being ready to settle down, placing the job & career first, letting others dictate your perception. To add to your thoughts, think it boils down to immaturity & bad judgment as well. Now that I’m older & I reflect back on my younger 20s, I know I passed up some good men!
Tell me though, for the presently mature 30 yr old woman that has a great job, never been married, and no kids – what do you do when you hear this list & think of all the men who’ve discounted you for the same reasons — superficial, gold-digging, insecure over salary differences, or even just his friends said my butt wasn’t as big as the other chick in the club so keep it stepping??? It goes both ways…
Thanks for stopping by to leave a comment, Michelle. Yes, the purpose of the Victory Unlimited Show is to give a voice to the issues, concerns, and the HOPES of all “good” men. The reason I felt the need to do a show specifically for Black men is simply because there’s a silent group of men out there who do not fit the negative image that some guys portray. My listeners often write me about how they NEVER hear anyone give any airtime to their concerns. Hence, the broadcasting of this particular show.
In regards to your comments pointing out that it’s basically all about “immaturity and bad judgment”—-I agree that this is true for both men and women. One purpose of this particular show was to highlight that the barriers and frustrations that you may encounter as a woman——many men experience as well. It’s my hope that if we start to see each other as people out here fighting to make real connections, then hopefully, more REAL connections is what we’ll make.
As I like to say from time to time: “The biggest barriers to us connecting as people is the misinformation, the misrepresentation, and the inability to STOP condemning the new person for “crimes” committed by the old.”
Hello, I just came across the The Top Twelve Reasons Why So Many Good Black Men Are Still Single broadcast and like it a lot, totally agree. But with identifying all the problems, what are the solutions? #goodsingleblackman
Jeremiah, there are several solutions to this problem. They involve things like men Knowing who they want, having realistically “high” expectations, having a willingness to “be” the kind of person he wants to attract—-and then utilizing what I have called The You Tube Strategy. Which, by the way, is defined as broadcasting yourself in the direction of as many worthy women as possible. Of course there are many other aspects to this as well—but the ones I’ve just mentioned are a good place to start.